Sunday, July 3, 2016

an open letter to the next woman to marry my {ex} husband #graceovergrief

dear next woman who is going to my marry my ex-husband,

 I know hearing from me may or may not be awkward.
And it is possible that I may or may not know you personally but you are about to embark on a journey that I once walked.

And our paths are now intertwined because of my children.

You are going to be their stepmother.
You will influence them, help guide them, love them, and nurture them.

 You will love their father and because of that they will learn from you.

They will look to you for support.

My biggest prayer is that love will be in the home.

Things did not work out between their father and I but I pray that things go differently this time. That he has found someone he meshes with, someone to spend his life with, and that the honor and respect that the two of you share will be evident in the children's lives. That they will always feel safe. That they will always feel loved and put first.

I pray that you and I can get along. That the past stays in the past and it doesn't matter what happened. We can put the children first. We can look past hurt, confusions, and problems and we can see the children. And as long as we all work on focusing on them, that happiness will be present in both homes and families.

I wish you both happiness, love, and extreme joy. Because when those 3 things are the foundation of a family then everyone prospers.

Above all.... thank you. Thank you for choosing my children. When you decided to marry their father you chose them and I am just thankful that they have someone else who will love them completely.

xoxo, Monica