I just had a Skype date with a very lovely friend of mine.
She is going through some heartbreak.
Its a hurt that is deep in your soul... where crying just doesn't feel like its enough. Even if it has been sometime.. the hurt and pain can remain.
Heartbreak can cause a person to be closed off, bitter, fearful, judged, and broken. It can make a person be emotionally turned off from future relationships because of the yuckiness that is still in their heart.
Like i told my friend... it is SOO important to forgive the other person (or persons) involved in your wounded heart. Hating them (or cursing them) does not HURT them... but it kills you. Ill feelings kills your spirit, your vibrancy, you future relationships, and it keeps your heart in a dark tomb. While they are off living their lives just as they always have you are toiling inside.
Learn to forgive wholeheartedly. Forgiving them is in NO WAY saying that what they did was okay (because it probably wasn't okay), nor is it saying that what you are feeling is not valid. Forgiving them is taking back the power that they have over you. It is saying "what you did was wrong and hurt me... i am stepping away from you emotionally and taking back everything that i freely gave you... and everything that was stolen from me. In return i give back to you anything that you have freely given me, and anything i took from you. I completely forgive you for [whatever it is] and i release you to be happy."
i know, i know... it sounds silly to say all of that... but its worth it. It may take some time to forgive but it is something that we need to do in order to move on with our lives. Colossians 3:13 tells us to forgive just as the Lord has forgiven us. Not because it is the "right thing to do" but because the Lord has forgiven us.
Forgiveness can release you from that tormenting heartbreak we have all felt at some time in our lives.
Unforgiveness for heartbreak hurts us and our future (or current) relationships. :( Not fun.
Remember - Psalm 147:3 "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
Sending you lots of love and happiness!
forgiveness, restored hearts, and love. -M
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